© 2019 by Isabel Decian , PLLC dba Isabel Decian Counseling

My Services

Healing thru Relationships

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You know the feeling too well. You are having that tight sensation in your chest, shallow breathing, trying to just get thru the day. Your mind is going all directions and when you are able to stop to bring awareness to yourself, you find you have been on a constant worry about yourself and your problems. You may not feel you were present to the activities you just competed a few minutes ago. All this anxiety is constantly taking you away from being the whole person you have been striving to become. You want to be the present friend, present and caring mother or partner. You may also find yourself conforming and molding yourself to what others want you to be in relationships, and not understanding who you truly are.

I get it. This can be very scary and disheartening, leaving you feeling hopeless and helpless at times. I’m here to help. I’m here to support you and teach you skills to manage those distressing emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. I’ll listen to your story and what has been troubling you, hold a caring space, and together we will make sense of what's going on and who you are.

 

In the safety of the therapeutic relationship, we will build you up again, and help you start feeling like you are whole again.

No more pushing the uncomfortable feelings away and spending a lot of energy not looking at them. It may sound scary, but together, we will sit with these uncomfortable feelings and sensations, examine them and make sense of how they developed overtime and how they are ruling your life by keeping you away from engaging in activities you find pleasurable, feeling unfulfilled as you work so hard to mask them, and feeling worthless. I’ll teach you what’s happening on your body and brain in moments of distress and teach you how to implement the latest neuroscience solutions to help you co-regulate and decrease distress.

My main therapeutic approach used is Client-Centered, so I’ll meet you where you are at. To provide you with an individually tailored treatment plan, I usually draw from other approaches as well such as Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Interpersonal Neurobiology, Mindfulness, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and some Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills. Additionally, I’m trained and proudly to offer Sandtray Therapy to help you in integrating yourself.

Please watch a fun, short, educational video on Children and Play Therapy.

 

 

Through Play Therapy, your child can improve how to communicate with others, express feelings, modify behavior, develop problem-solving skills, and learn a variety of ways of relating to others while using the developmentally appropriate language of children which is: PLAY. Play provides a safe psychological distance from their problems and allows expression of thoughts and feelings appropriate to their development.

As a rigorously trained Registered Play Therapist, I am trained in translating the language children use, play. In Play Therapy, I offer a carefully selected variety of toys to aid children communicating and expressing what they need during our session.

 

Playing out their experiences and feelings is the most natural and self-healing process a child can engage in. In their play children communicate, their experiences, their reactions and feelings to those experiences, their wishes, needs, and wants, and their self-perception.

 

Thru playing, children are able to bring relief to difficult emotions, organize their experiences and their personal world, experience being in control, and able to come up with new solutions for their problems, which decreases problematic behaviors.

While children play, I provide a supportive, caring, safe, and non-judgmental space for them in order to help them to learn how to co-regulate their emotions so they can learn better ways to express themselves. During play therapy, children learn to develop self-control by responding with appropriate therapeutic limit-setting procedures. When children symbolically play what may be unmanageable in reality, children are able to make these situations more manageable in real life.

 

When children feel heard, understood, cared, accepted, and important, their self-concept improves, self-esteem increases, children become more resilient and self-reliant, children become more responsible and able to cope better, develop an internal source of evaluation, and gradually learn to accept themselves all of which help with decreasing problematic behaviors.

Approaches I use in working with children: Child-Centered Play Therapy, Integrative Play Therapy, AutPlay Therapy (Certified Provider), Sandtray Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

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It’s a typical day at the house, everything is going well, until your child starts to whine, cry, and scream. Your child may then escalate into a full-blown tantrum or melt-down. In moments like this, you may feel like you are at the end of your rope as a parent, feeling like a failure, out of connection with yourself and your child, emotionally dysregulated yourself, and not enjoying your own child as you had imagined. You feel drained, and dreading parenting as you prepare for what feels like a constant uphill battle with your child.

I am here to help change that. You and your child deserve support! You don’t have to feel like you have to do it all alone. In fact, this idea that parenting as a lonely journey is a fruit of our modern culture, neurobiologically, we were never meant to do it alone. Our brains are social brains and not wired for being self-sufficient.

 Parenting can feel rewarding again.

When we become parents, all of our own past unresolved wounds may re-surface and may influence how we end up parenting our own children, even when in the past we said “I’ll never do this to my own child!”

I’m here to help you feel CONNECTED to your child again. I am trained in Child-Parent Relationship Therapy, a form of Filial Therapy which helps with strengthening connection with parent-child thru the use of the powers of Play! I’ll teach you to develop basic skills to BE WITH your child in caring, understanding, present, and non-judgmental way thru weekly, short, but powerful play interactions to ameliorate and decrease unwanted behaviors in the LONG-TERM!

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